The harness pic is bad ass. Is it fair to say you're into leather?
Thank you. Actually, I’m not into leather; the harness is made out of nylon. I have been exploring BDSM lately, though…
July 2011
27 posts
I wish I could physically transition without having to worry about how others will cope with transitioning along with me.
you have nice nipples
Thank you. I don’t really like their appearance, but I do like the sensation they provide me with.
I just wanna drop bye and say hi and that you look beast man! :D any tips for working out?
Hello and thank you!
As far as tips for working out go, my first one is to make it become a habit in your life (I’ve heard that a habit takes 28 days to establish). Start off with a reasonable or attainable goal, such as “I will work out two times per week”, and once you can consistently meet that goal, you can increase the frequency to three, four, five, or six days per week, depending on what you’re doing.
Try be patient and try not to get discouraged. Getting visible results takes months of hard work and effort, as does achieving significant strength gains.
I find it helpful to follow a structured exercise program, such as those featured on Bodybuilding.com. I began following the Intermediate Training program in the fall or winter (can’t remember), and over the months have modified it to meet my individual needs.
Additionally, scooby1969 on Youtube has been a great source of information about bodybuilding to me. He has uploaded hundreds of videos on various topics, from exercises to nutrition. What I find most helpful about his videos is that he demonstrates what the exercise should and shouldn’t look and feel like, regarding form. His website is also awesome.
Good luck to you in your work out endeavors and thank you for dropping me a line!
DUDE Trans Male Zine is available for download →
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Free in PDF format!
NoHo/NoOp Resources →
fuckyeahftmsofcolor.tumblr.com
Most people have heard of sex changes- usually in jokes at the expense of those who seek them. There are a lot of misconceptions and misunderstandings about transgender people, or people whose identity does not match their birth sex, as well as the options they have. For people who feel they may be transgendered, there is no lack of information on how to medically and surgically transition.
What there is a lack of, is information for people who don’t want to change their bodies for whatever reason.
I’m going to preface this by saying that I fully support transition. Transition is a valid option for people who experience severe dysphoria, many of these people need to transition.
What I don’t support is the pressure the law, society, and even the transgender community puts on people to get expensive medical treatment they may not want. It’s extremely hard for non-transitioners (or non-ops) to find support or resources for the unique problems facing them, and I’m hoping to fix that.
This is only talking about medical transition. Socially transitioning can still be an option for people who don’t want to make any medical changes.
Non-Op on Tumblr
No-ho/no-op Forum on Laura’s Playground
Hot damn you have beautiful abs. How'd you get them like that, kid?!
Thank you! I have somehow managed to have abs since I was a kid, even though I didn’t start directly targeting them through exercise until I was 16. The only reason I remember this is because I think I was showing my double hernia scars to a neighborhood kid when I was 10 and he was like, “Woah, you have a six pack!” Then his friend chimed in, “All girls have six packs”.
I think the biggest contributor to the visibility of my abdominal muscles is my relatively small amount of body fat. I have been underweight for most of my life (I’m not sure if I still am) and this makes my muscles and bones appear more prominent. I do also directly exercise my abs two or three times weekly through exercises like double crunches, V-ups, bicycles, and use the weighted crunch machines at the gym.
Queer Porn and Me
someboysarejustaliens replied to your link: Queer Porn Tube
Yeah it’s kinda dead though. It’s sad there’s not an active queer porn site…that’s free… Random TMI question since we’re on the subject: Have you ever considered doing porn-related work?
Yes, I have considered it. I have done some mild exploration into amateur queer porn here on Tumblr by posting rather tame but somewhat erotic photos of myself in the past (here and here) on this blog and have submitted photos to some of the queer porn-centric Tumblrs. I do kind of enjoy being an erotic exhibitionist in a sense, but I definitely prefer photography as a medium over video. However, in general, I harbor a lot of self-doubt about whether I have enough sex appeal to actually captivate and satiate potential viewers; I don’t really feel like there’s anything uniquely or overly sexy about me that would make me prime queer porn star material.
Queer Porn Tube →
queerporn.tv
Just discovered this site. Woah.
Female to whatever. →
waxpapereyes.tumblr.com
“female to whatever is for the folks in the ftm spectrum who do not fit the super macho binary mold of the “typical” trans-man that is pressured onto us in many ways. whether or not the “typical” trans-man exists, the pressure certainly does. we may not want surgeries or hormones. we may not entirely identify as men despite taking the route to medically transition. we may simply be very feminine in our expression while still identifying solely as men. either way, there is a lot of pressure in the online ftm community to be man enough, and this group is rebelling against that trend.
so, who is this group for as far as identities go? FAAB (female assigned at birth) trans* people who don’t see themselves as fitting into a man’s man identity. this includes binary-identified folks. so, this is for ftms, genderqueers, androgynes, two spirits, butches, bois, studs, AGs, all others identifying as transgender, transmasculine, gender non-conforming, or masculine of center, cis allies, SOFFAs, and anyone i may have missed are welcome.”The facebook page is right here.
The group at present is join by invite so if you really want to join my facebook is this add me and I will invite you to the group.
An Open Letter from Us to You... →
bklynboihood.com
Dear bklyn boihood Family,
We’re sitting here at Ryann’s crib, eating icees, making plans and thinking about all of the people, places and things that have built our community. So much has happened in the past 12 months, it’s hard to really believe some of it is real.
Before there was a name, a website, a calendar, or even our dope glow-in-the-dark pins, there were people. Mentors, supporters, challengers…friends. As we have grown into a larger community we are so grateful to have that in you.
You – at the parties, on the blogs, at Bois days, sending us thoughts/ideas, sharing us, posting our calendars, sharing and listening to us…you are the reason the world is taking notice of the work we’re doing. People come through from all over to to rock at our parties, collaborate with us, show interest, and learn more about who we are and what we represent.
This summer we’ve had Bois Days, workshops, GO Mag Awards and nominations, traveled, thrown the hottest kickoff to pride party ever, hit conferences and now our 2012 Calendar Production is about to start.
Fam – we need your help. We fly but we ain’t rich. I’m sure you know the feeling*. I know most of us don’t do this sort of thing often. You gotta walk across the room, get your credit card, check your balance, sign up, blah blah blah…we get it.
Community does not build itself. Let’s continue to set the tone for the way community upholds community, throughout Bklyn and the world.
Let’s make this calendar happen together, y’all. We have 10 days.
Love Always,
Genesis & Ryann
*if in fact you don’t know what that feels like because you are all $et – please share:)
on the set of last year’s calendar shoot (gen, ryann)
20% off almost everything at Babeland 'til Sunday! →
babeland.com
(As in, $80 for a SpareParts Joque Harness; that’s the cheapest I have ever seen it listed anywhere)
Leo! I srsly thought you'd gotten surgery. Youre always so buff. You really do have nice pecs! GoGo boy dancing any day now!!!!!
Aw, thank you. If I tried to go-go dance, people would probably hand me money so that I would stop, ha. Maybe someday I’ll learn how to actually dance.
I noticed a long time ago that your pubic hair seemed rather thick. Do you ever trim it, and if so does it cause any problems?
My pubes are rather coarse. I tend to trim them with a scissor once or twice monthly to keep them from getting in the way of things - as in, MC rather not floss while going down on me, haha. I’ve never had any problems with trimming my pubes with a scissor or electric shaver. In the past, I have shaved myself bare with a razor, but I didn’t really like the way that felt.
travel plans!
Everything after I get into Seattle is approximate, but lets talk if you are in these areas and want to hang & be photographed sometime in the month of august.
I’m mostly photographing for my genderqueer project, but i’ll try to meet up with everyone and i could always use a tour guide. email me! elle.s.perez[@]gmail.com
Seattle August 3rd - 11th
Portland August 11th-16th
Los Angeles August 16th - 24th
One Year on Testosterone (Kind of)
My first T shot was a year ago from yesterday. Although I haven’t been on T for 12 consecutive months (I spent an interval of about 3 months not being on T), this one-year milestone is exciting to me.
This day also coincides with me being back on T, but in cream form, for two months. I’ve been experiencing some voice squeaks and pitch breaks, but my habitual speaking voice does not seem to have deepened much yet. My thighs are getting furrier and the skin on my face is becoming a bit more prone to zits. Being on the cream has been working out fine, so far, and I’m relieved to announce that I haven’t been experiencing any drastic mood or anxiety issues.
Gendered Body Parts
These are my teeth. I feel like they are one of the few visible body parts I possess that are not gendered in some way by society. Aside from the most obviously gendered parts, genitals, cultures have assigned everything from eyebrows to feet to “fit” within the gender binary.
So long, Share
I’ve decided to part ways with my Share. As I mentioned in my product review, it just wasn’t really my cup of tea, per say. So, instead of having it sit in a drawer collecting dust, I’ve listed it on FTM Garage Sale for $45, shipping included. It’s only been used three times and has been sterilized via boiling water. If you happen to be interested in becoming its new owner, you can e-mail me at leotronical (at) gmail (dot) com.
EDIT: Sold! :)
Overheard at Work
I overhead the principal of the school I work at talking to a colleague about a parent who didn’t want her child to be “in the same room as a gay man” (referring to a teaching assistant who is likely to be perceived as gay). Fortunately, the principal was stating this fact in such a way that she was not agreeing with the parent, but it upsets me that this is even an issue in the first place.
If I was “out” at work, I imagine this particular parent would additionally not be okay with her child being in the presence of a transgender person.
Camp Trans 2011 →
camp-trans.org
July 24 - 31 in Hart, Michigan
Camp Trans is an annual gathering of transgender people and their allies in Michigan with the intent of:
Protesting the exclusion of trans women from women-only spaces, most notably the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival;
Building a trans-inclusive community that is welcoming and safe for all;
Empowering the next generation of activists to fight for trans issues locally through organizer trainings, workshops, and leadership development; and
Advocating for the inclusion of trans issues in progressive, queer, and feminist movements by building coalitions with supportive organizations and bringing attention to local campaigns.
(I had the privilege of attending Camp Trans 2007 and it was a remarkable experience. Do check this out if you can)
Northeast Regional FTM Campout - July 22 - 24 →
cauldronfarm.com
Once again, we are gathering the brothers together to camp, hang out, swim, and generally have a good time. The cost is $15 for the weekend. Please bring your own tent, camping gear, flashlight, bug dope, sunscreen, and enough food for the weekend, including extra food for the Saturday night potluck meal. Pets are allowed as long as they are kept on leashes at all times.
This event is open to anyone who self-identifies as FTM, regardless of where you are with regard to physical transition. We are not the gender police; we will take your identification at face value.
If you cannot afford the admission fee, but you are willing to do a work exchange, you must absolutely email or call us before Monday, July 11th, so that we can arrange your work shift. There will be no exceptions to this rule. Period.
If anyone would like to organize an activity or give a workshop on a relevant topic, please email Raven at cauldronfarm@hotmail.com. If you have questions about the event, ditto.
My Gender Friends
By Jos | Published: June 30, 2011
I was talking about some personal gender stuff with Miriam yesterday and mentioned “Finn, one of my other gender friends” (because Finn had given me some really great advice). After our conversation I got to thinking about how important the concept of a “gender friend” has become in my life, and what an insider idea this is, a term that most people don’t even know.
A gender friend is someone I feel comfortable talking through gender issues with. I’ve got a range of gender friends, from folks I like to have nerdy theoretical conversations with to a few folks with whom I talk through incredibly personal issues. They’re people who share some important common understandings about gender, who I know I won’t have to explain basic concepts to when talking about something I’m struggling with or excited about. They’ve helped me process my feelings and experiences around gender, helped me explore my genderqueer identity and then come out as a trans woman. And I’ve helped friends through similar experiences.
My gender friends don’t necessarily identify the same way I do – in fact, my best gender friends are genderqueer and trans guys, and I’ve got cisgender gender friends. But they are people who know me well, who think seriously about gender at a political, cultural, and personal level, and who are great, compassionate listeners who are also willing to open up. We don’t always see eye to eye on everything either, but they’re the kind of friends who care about me and can support me where I’m at. I first had this sort of conversation in a genderqueer discussion group at college – some of the members of that group are still close gender friends today.
As one friend mentioned to me, there’s a gender comfort spectrum among people in my life. I find a range of comfort discussing certain issues with different folks, depending on how much they understand about gender and how well they know me. Obviously, I think it’s important to talk about gender with everyone, and there’s a real power in sharing the personal, or I wouldn’t be blogging here. But when working through certain issues there are people who I know will work to understand me when I can’t find the right words and will give me the space to process difficult shit. If it weren’t for some of my closest gender friends I’d never have been ready to share things like my own history with suicide or even my relationship with The Little Mermaid.
I think it’s important to have people in our lives who we can talk with about issues relating to identity. I have friends I feel more comfortable talking with about class, race, or religion. But gender’s the area where it’s been so obviously important that it’s been given a name by my community. This makes sense, since I’m talking about queer, trans, and gender non-conforming folks and allies for whom gender is so often a super salient and obvious part of our lives. I feel incredibly blessed and privileged to have people like this in my life – I hope tools like the internet can help geographically isolated trans and gender non-conforming folks find similar support networks. I think it’s a concept that could benefit a much broader range of people, though – after all, we all exist in a gendered world and have to deal with our place in it.
Do you have a close gender friend, or friends you talk about certain identity issues with? Would it be helpful to you to deliberately talk these topics with a good friend who understands?