Thank you. Actually, I’m not into leather; the harness is made out of nylon. I have been exploring BDSM lately, though…
I wish I could physically transition without having to worry about how others will cope with transitioning along with me.
Thank you. I don’t really like their appearance, but I do like the sensation they provide me with.
Hello and thank you!
As far as tips for working out go, my first one is to make it become a habit in your life (I’ve heard that a habit takes 28 days to establish). Start off with a reasonable or attainable goal, such as “I will work out two times per week”, and once you can consistently meet that goal, you can increase the frequency to three, four, five, or six days per week, depending on what you’re doing.
Try be patient and try not to get discouraged. Getting visible results takes months of hard work and effort, as does achieving significant strength gains.
I find it helpful to follow a structured exercise program, such as those featured on Bodybuilding.com. I began following the Intermediate Training program in the fall or winter (can’t remember), and over the months have modified it to meet my individual needs.
Additionally, scooby1969 on Youtube has been a great source of information about bodybuilding to me. He has uploaded hundreds of videos on various topics, from exercises to nutrition. What I find most helpful about his videos is that he demonstrates what the exercise should and shouldn’t look and feel like, regarding form. His website is also awesome.
Good luck to you in your work out endeavors and thank you for dropping me a line!
Thank you! I have somehow managed to have abs since I was a kid, even though I didn’t start directly targeting them through exercise until I was 16. The only reason I remember this is because I think I was showing my double hernia scars to a neighborhood kid when I was 10 and he was like, “Woah, you have a six pack!” Then his friend chimed in, “All girls have six packs”.
I think the biggest contributor to the visibility of my abdominal muscles is my relatively small amount of body fat. I have been underweight for most of my life (I’m not sure if I still am) and this makes my muscles and bones appear more prominent. I do also directly exercise my abs two or three times weekly through exercises like double crunches, V-ups, bicycles, and use the weighted crunch machines at the gym.
Yeah it’s kinda dead though. It’s sad there’s not an active queer porn site…that’s free… Random TMI question since we’re on the subject: Have you ever considered doing porn-related work?
Yes, I have considered it. I have done some mild exploration into amateur queer porn here on Tumblr by posting rather tame but somewhat erotic photos of myself in the past (here and here) on this blog and have submitted photos to some of the queer porn-centric Tumblrs. I do kind of enjoy being an erotic exhibitionist in a sense, but I definitely prefer photography as a medium over video. However, in general, I harbor a lot of self-doubt about whether I have enough sex appeal to actually captivate and satiate potential viewers; I don’t really feel like there’s anything uniquely or overly sexy about me that would make me prime queer porn star material.
Aw, thank you. If I tried to go-go dance, people would probably hand me money so that I would stop, ha. Maybe someday I’ll learn how to actually dance.
My pubes are rather coarse. I tend to trim them with a scissor once or twice monthly to keep them from getting in the way of things - as in, MC rather not floss while going down on me, haha. I’ve never had any problems with trimming my pubes with a scissor or electric shaver. In the past, I have shaved myself bare with a razor, but I didn’t really like the way that felt.
Everything after I get into Seattle is approximate, but lets talk if you are in these areas and want to hang & be photographed sometime in the month of august.
I’m mostly photographing for my genderqueer project, but i’ll try to meet up with everyone and i could always use a tour guide. email me! elle.s.perez[@]gmail.com
Seattle August 3rd - 11th
Portland August 11th-16th
Los Angeles August 16th - 24th
My first T shot was a year ago from yesterday. Although I haven’t been on T for 12 consecutive months (I spent an interval of about 3 months not being on T), this one-year milestone is exciting to me.
This day also coincides with me being back on T, but in cream form, for two months. I’ve been experiencing some voice squeaks and pitch breaks, but my habitual speaking voice does not seem to have deepened much yet. My thighs are getting furrier and the skin on my face is becoming a bit more prone to zits. Being on the cream has been working out fine, so far, and I’m relieved to announce that I haven’t been experiencing any drastic mood or anxiety issues.
These are my teeth. I feel like they are one of the few visible body parts I possess that are not gendered in some way by society. Aside from the most obviously gendered parts, genitals, cultures have assigned everything from eyebrows to feet to “fit” within the gender binary.
I’ve decided to part ways with my Share. As I mentioned in my product review, it just wasn’t really my cup of tea, per say. So, instead of having it sit in a drawer collecting dust, I’ve listed it on FTM Garage Sale for $45, shipping included. It’s only been used three times and has been sterilized via boiling water. If you happen to be interested in becoming its new owner, you can e-mail me at leotronical (at) gmail (dot) com.
EDIT: Sold! :)
I overhead the principal of the school I work at talking to a colleague about a parent who didn’t want her child to be “in the same room as a gay man” (referring to a teaching assistant who is likely to be perceived as gay). Fortunately, the principal was stating this fact in such a way that she was not agreeing with the parent, but it upsets me that this is even an issue in the first place.
If I was “out” at work, I imagine this particular parent would additionally not be okay with her child being in the presence of a transgender person.
I was talking about some personal gender stuff with Miriam yesterday and mentioned “Finn, one of my other gender friends” (because Finn had given me some really great advice). After our conversation I got to thinking about how important the concept of a “gender friend” has become in my life, and what an insider idea this is, a term that most people don’t even know.
A gender friend is someone I feel comfortable talking through gender issues with. I’ve got a range of gender friends, from folks I like to have nerdy theoretical conversations with to a few folks with whom I talk through incredibly personal issues. They’re people who share some important common understandings about gender, who I know I won’t have to explain basic concepts to when talking about something I’m struggling with or excited about. They’ve helped me process my feelings and experiences around gender, helped me explore my genderqueer identity and then come out as a trans woman. And I’ve helped friends through similar experiences.
My gender friends don’t necessarily identify the same way I do – in fact, my best gender friends are genderqueer and trans guys, and I’ve got cisgender gender friends. But they are people who know me well, who think seriously about gender at a political, cultural, and personal level, and who are great, compassionate listeners who are also willing to open up. We don’t always see eye to eye on everything either, but they’re the kind of friends who care about me and can support me where I’m at. I first had this sort of conversation in a genderqueer discussion group at college – some of the members of that group are still close gender friends today.
As one friend mentioned to me, there’s a gender comfort spectrum among people in my life. I find a range of comfort discussing certain issues with different folks, depending on how much they understand about gender and how well they know me. Obviously, I think it’s important to talk about gender with everyone, and there’s a real power in sharing the personal, or I wouldn’t be blogging here. But when working through certain issues there are people who I know will work to understand me when I can’t find the right words and will give me the space to process difficult shit. If it weren’t for some of my closest gender friends I’d never have been ready to share things like my own history with suicide or even my relationship with The Little Mermaid.
I think it’s important to have people in our lives who we can talk with about issues relating to identity. I have friends I feel more comfortable talking with about class, race, or religion. But gender’s the area where it’s been so obviously important that it’s been given a name by my community. This makes sense, since I’m talking about queer, trans, and gender non-conforming folks and allies for whom gender is so often a super salient and obvious part of our lives. I feel incredibly blessed and privileged to have people like this in my life – I hope tools like the internet can help geographically isolated trans and gender non-conforming folks find similar support networks. I think it’s a concept that could benefit a much broader range of people, though – after all, we all exist in a gendered world and have to deal with our place in it.
Do you have a close gender friend, or friends you talk about certain identity issues with? Would it be helpful to you to deliberately talk these topics with a good friend who understands?