I usually don’t get morning wood, but this morning….wow.
I’m off from work until July 9th. Time to grow out my sparse facial hair!
(And perhaps write that RodeoH review I’ve been meaning to do)
I just spoke with one of my cousins on the phone. Her mom (my aunt) is a breast cancer survivor, but had a recent scare at one of her check-ups. My aunt has made the decision to undergo a double mastectomy in September. Similarly, my other aunt on that side of the family just underwent a double mastectomy due to cancer and is currently recovering. I have a second cousin on that side of my family who has breast cancer, too.
Given the genetic predisposition of breast cancer in our family, my cousin told me that once she has health insurance, she is electing to undergo a double mastectomy as a preventative measure. She suggested that I do the same.
Hmm. I’m not sure what to make of all of this. As you know, my number one reason for not pursuing top surgery is that I don’t want to risk losing erotic nipple sensation, since it plays such a big part in my sex life. However, after talking to my cousin, I feel slightly torn. I think I need to process this more.
Tumblr, what are your thoughts on weight-lifting gloves? I am proud of the callouses that decorate my palms, but people who receive massages from me feel otherwise. Do weight-lifting gloves impact your performance negatively at all?
unwieldykakapo replied to your post: do you know how to make Facebook timeline gender neutral?
The closest I’ve gotten was removing my gender entirely? You go to Edit My Basic Info, and can leave Select Sex as just “Select Sex” and uncheck “Show my sex on my timeline.” BUT there are places it will not quite work. Facebook still insists I’m my sister’s brother, because apparently the word “sibling” is too hard? On our “friendship” page they refer to us as siblings so I don’t know what’s up with that.
No, unfortunately. Anyone know how to do this?
If you live in NYC or are visiting NYC this weekend, here’s a list of some of the events going on, aside from the big corporate pride parade in Manhattan.
2nd Annual Pride on the Beach (clothing optional)
Color Me Queer (for queer POC and allies)
Thank you. I can currently bench press 95 lbs for about 6 reps.
Sure - thanks for bringing this to my awareness.
Sweat-soaked binders: difficult to keep on, difficult to take off
Here are some of the answers I received:
“They do have therapists, as well. It’s usually interns that stay for a few months, and then leave (at which pint they put you on a waiting list for a new one).”
“ Callen Lorde does not do regular therapy long term. They will refer you out. You can call them and get a list of people they recommend. Also the center.”
“ They do indeed! But I think it’s just for patients receiving medical care as well. They have group counseling for others.”
“ I go to Callen-Lorde but I’m in the HOTT (youth) program and don’t know about the adult program. But I do get regular therapy there, in addition to other health care.”
I think it’s fine for you to think to yourself that a person looks or sounds better, especially when it ties in to the knowledge that they are feeling more comfortable with their gender presentation with the assistance of hormones. However, if you’re interacting with a transgender person you don’t know very well or a stranger, it might be best to keep those opinions to yourself to prevent a potential misunderstanding.
For me personally, I like getting compliments on any noticeable changes I am exhibiting, but I understand that for others, it’s a touchy subject.
Good luck to you in exploring your gender identity.
Yes, I do go to Callen-Lorde. I’m not sure if they have therapists there - followers, do any of you know?
I just found out that “Ask Me Anything” box has not been sending me notifications. If you sent me anything recently, I will get back to you later today.
Two days ago marks 5 months on T cream. My report continues to be that my changes are so gradual that I don’t really notice them from month to month. I know that my happy trail has spread since being on testosterone cream, but it isn’t something I feel I can verbally quantify on a monthly basis. Video coming soon.
Some days, I don’t want any pronouns.
Leo said Leo doesn’t want third person pronouns used to refer to Leo because Leo’s relationship with pronouns is complicated.
I found out during one of the workshops at PTHC that a simple meta release with Dr. McGinn in Pennsylvania costs about $4,800. While that is a huge amount of cash, it’s so much cheaper than I ever imagined bottom surgery costing. Bottom surgery always seemed very inaccessible to me; the thought of spending over well over $10,000 and potentially traveling to another country for surgery just never seemed like something I could even consider. Hmm.
During Friday and Saturday, I was able to attend several workshops at the Philadelphia Transgender Health Conference. Two of the workshops really stood out to me in terms of content, organization, execution, and engagement:
The three speakers on this panel were passionate, powerful, and eloquent. They tied the feminism movement from the 60’s and 70’s to today’s struggle against misogyny and trans misogyny, in particular. The panelists spoke critically of the current state of the trans* and queer communities, in which trans males are generally given more power and respect, while trans women continue to be outcasted through invalidation and erasure.
This was a one of a kind workshop in that not only did it provide an in depth overview of the current bottom surgery options available for trans* guys, but also had a very unique “show and tell” component, in which participants showed the results of their lower surgeries to the audience. One participate showed a “simple release” meta, another showed a meta with scrotoplasty and urethral lengthening, another showed a complete phalloplasty (including “pumping”, demonstrating how the penis becomes erect), and another who had undergone a few stages of phalloplasty but was not complete. In addition to showing their results, the participants answered questions about their genitals before and after surgery. The session also included a slideshow that included several images of post-op folks during various stages of recovery.
Last night, I went to the OP party after the conference. The celebration was held at a bar that predominantly caters to the cis gay male community. After several drinks, I needed to urgently use the bathroom. I meandered among the three floors of the bar in search of a restroom with a toilet bowl, but they all seemed to have urinals. When I finally discovered the restroom with a toilet, people were saying it was “broken”. I explained the situation to my friend who was there, and he told me to get a glass, urinate in it, and dump it in the urinal. We found an empty restroom and he guarded the door while I filled a pint glass to the brim. I feel very fortunate that my friend helped me out, but wish peeing at this bar didn’t have to turn into a whole awkward ordeal. The bar closed at 2 am and I had to pee again during my walk back to the hotel; I found an ally and squatted.